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In Others’ Words: The Honest Truth

In Others’ Words: The Honest Truth

Which would you choose: acceptance achieved by pretense or rejection caused by honesty? Living honestly? It’s risky business. Wear a mask and be well-liked. Conform to the expected behaviors and earn a pat on the back . . . a place at the table . . . a “welcome to the family” — whatever equals acceptance for you. Or replace the sanctified lie with the unvarnished truth and ... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Blind “I”

In Others’ Words: Blind “I”

  We so often talk about centering ourselves. Finding our inner strength. Searching for, and finding, the person we were meant to be. Well, bravo that. But what about getting out of our own way? How often do we consider that as a path to success, to fulfillment?  Not often enough. As a writer, I often plumb my own life to find the catalyst of a story. The spark is hidden in my past somewhere ... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Defining Your Space

In Others’ Words: Defining Your Space

I read an interesting interview of Shonda Rhimes, the writer/producer of such TV hits as Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal. The last question was “What else do you wish women knew?” — but I think the question, and Rhimes’s answer, is applicable to everyone. ” … People deal with so much insecurity and spend so much time thinking, That person is better, so I couldn... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Pay Attention!

In Others’ Words: Pay Attention!

Pay Attention! We hear those words a lot, don’t we? Maybe someone says them to us … or maybe we’re the ones trying to get someone else to listen up, to focus … to pay attention to what we’re saying or what we’re doing. We give our attention to what — and to who — is important. And so I think José Ortega y Gasset got it right when he said what we pay ... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Who Do You Think You Are?

In Others’ Words: Who Do You Think You Are?

Envy is an ugly two-way emotion. In one direction, I throw doubt at myself, splattering thoughts of “I can’t” and “I won’t ever be that good” all over my self-confidence. At the same time, I toss an equal amount of “Why you instead of me?” and “I want what you have” at someone else — and that someone can be a valued friend. Unwelcom... Read More »

In Others’ Word: They Like Me, They Like Me Not

In Others’ Word: They Like Me, They Like Me Not

  There’s a lot of truth packed into today’s quote. Some people are going to like you. Some people aren’t. It’s as simple … and as challenging … as that. Another way to put it? You can’t please everybody.  But, oh, don’t we try sometimes? You know what finally convinced me that some people will like me and some people won’t? Publishing a b... Read More »

In Others’ Words: The Value of Befriending Yourself

In Others’ Words: The Value of Befriending Yourself

How good a friend are you — with yourself? If someone had asked me that question years ago, I’d have to confess to being a fair weather friend to myself. I hung around me when things were going well — when I could stamp “approved” on my forehead or slap a gold star on my efforts. But when the going got tough and I didn’t handle things well? I was as good as gone... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Identifying Your Life Theme

In Others’ Words: Identifying Your Life Theme

With apologies to you, my friends, for not posting a blog on Tuesday … I flew to New York for RWA (Romance Writers of America) — a ginormous writers conference. In all the madness to get ready and get on the plane, I just forgot to post a blog. That’s it. I forgot. Several of you sent, “Are you okay” emails. I am okay … just in NYC — and slightly embarrass... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Superheroes and  Identity Theft

In Others’ Words: Superheroes and Identity Theft

We can learn a lot from an imaginary superhero like Elastigirl. “Your identity is your most valuable possession. Protect it.” Superheroes don’t want people to know their true identity. Superman can’t reveal that he’s Clark Kent, mild-mannered reporter. The Flash can’t admit to being Barry Allen, a forensic scientist. And Elastigirl can’t declare she’... Read More »