In Others’ Words: Bend Not Break
In the breaking, I found both my weakness and my strength.
No one else broke my heart. I did that. Yes, someone’s actions hurt me deeply, but it was my actions — my reactions — that caused my heart to crack. To crumble. To break.
Instead of bending to the hurt, to the transgression … I responded in anger. I chose not to forgive. I lashed out, responding in kind.
My weakness was defending myself, rather than bending low and remembering strength is not found in self-seeking vengence. No, sometimes the strongest thing I can do is to yield … to forgive … even if the other person never recognizes that what I am offering them is a truce.
I’ve learned forgiveness is never founded on a lie … but you cannot reckon truth for another person. Nor can you demand that they accept your terms for a truce.
But the choice to bend your heart … to not be broken … that is yours and yours alone.
In Your Words: What makes your heart pliable when someone hurts you, helping you to bend instead of break?
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