In Others’ Words: Kindness

“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” ย ~Benjamin Disraeli (1804 – 1881), British Prime Minister

One of the greatest blessings in my life?

The people in my life who believe in me.

Sometimes I am my own worst enemy, tripping myself up with doubt, slowing myself down with “should I’s?” and “shouldn’t I’s?”.

The people who come alongside me, put their arms around my shoulders and say, “You can do this,” — they make all the difference in quitting or continuing. And those people who take the time to say, “I see this ability in you” — wow! That breathes a whole new level of self-assurance into my sometimes fragile sense of self.

Needing others’ encouragement — does this mean I’m weak?

No, it means I’m human.

Do I base my self-worth on what others’ think or say about me?

No. (Well, not usually.)

But words of affirmation from family, friends, fellow writers and mentors: all of these breathe life and hope and refreshment to my soul.

In Your Words: Who in your life took the time to help you see your value?


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33 Comments

  1. May 2, 2012, 4:50 am   /  Reply

    Oh I couldn’t agree more, Beth! Encouragement is so important. Being a confident person, there is a tendency for others to think I don’t need to hear those words of encouragement and affirmation but I do need them, very much! Wonderful post, Beth, as always ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:15 pm   /  Reply

      Susannah,
      It’s funny how others can assume that people don’t need to hear the affirmation … and yet, everyone does, even the most confident-looking people!

  2. Patti Mallett
    May 2, 2012, 5:46 am   /  Reply

    I must admit it, Beth, I rushed in here this morning to hear how things went down yesterday. Please, please, share details with us -soon. Those of us who live at a distance would so much have loved being there with you in person!! You were much on my mind.

    As to confidence. Yes, it is wonderful to have the encouragement of friends and family. It seems almost impossible to know how much our confidence rests on the words and actions of others, and how much rests in who we know we are in Christ. God gives us people because He understands our fragility and needs. And, like you, I am so grateful to have that Band of Sisters. It’s a blessing like no other!

    Thank you for all you give and do to help others have a better chance of seeing their own dreams come true!!

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:16 pm   /  Reply

      Patti:
      I will post more tomorrow — promise!
      I was in South Carolina with Susie and Rachel and the MBT Team and the internet was so, so unreliable. This post was set up before I left — and good thing too!
      ๐Ÿ˜‰
      And I appreciate your encouraging heart too!

  3. May 2, 2012, 6:16 am   /  Reply

    Friends, family members, mentors. Different people during different times. Encouragement is such a blessing to me.

    I also struggle w/ being my own worst enemy.
    ~ Wendy

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:18 pm   /  Reply

      Agreed, Wendy. Different people, different times, different encouragement.
      ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. May 2, 2012, 6:32 am   /  Reply

    If not for the encouragement of others, I don’t know where I’d be! I’ve had countless people, like my parents, my husband, and several friends, who have believed in me and kept me going through encouraging words and actions. And I have a lot of writing buddies who I can vent to who give me affirmation that I’ve not gone completely over the edge! (Thank you, Beth, Keli, Mel, and Jess in particular!) It’s great to be part of such a wonderful community.

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:19 pm   /  Reply

      Community, community, community — makes all the difference.
      And I do believe Melissa said something like “dibs” while we talked about you this week.
      ๐Ÿ˜‰

  5. May 2, 2012, 6:47 am   /  Reply

    Everyone along the way has encouraged me from family to friends and then writer friends. Without everyone’s prayers and encouragement, not sure I couldn’t made it this far.
    Wishing you the best as you launch this next phase of your writing career!

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:19 pm   /  Reply

      And thank you for that encouragement, Pat!

  6. May 2, 2012, 6:59 am   /  Reply

    Ah, this is such a struggle for me. My love language is words of affirmation. So encouragement from a friend or a loved one or a reader goes such a long way in feeding my soul. My problem comes, though, when I put my value and worth into this affirmation. I have a hard time finding the balance!

    • May 2, 2012, 8:48 am   /  Reply

      Same here. Doh! But at least we realize this, and perhaps find balance in knowing the Lord cares and “affirms” far more than even the most encouraging human. He sees! When I find myself wanting that arm of affirmation around me, I may get it, or I may not. But it also may be a sign that it’s time to ask the Lord to send me along to encourage someone else. The sense of his pleasure at being his vessel tops all else (I’m learning… ๐Ÿ˜€ ).

      • May 2, 2012, 8:52 am   /  Reply

        …and I’ll just tack on my answer to Beth’s question here: BETH VOGT. That’s who. You’re pretty awesome like that. ๐Ÿ™‚

        • Beth Vogt
          May 2, 2012, 4:24 pm   /  Reply

          Right back atcha, friend.
          ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Beth Vogt
        May 2, 2012, 4:24 pm   /  Reply

        An excellent reminder, Camille.

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:20 pm   /  Reply

      Katie,
      I understand.
      I understand.
      I understand.
      ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. May 2, 2012, 7:13 am   /  Reply

    The entire MBT core team…just this past week…I love the encouragement and affirmation of this team. ๐Ÿ™‚ Miss ya, Beth…can’t wait to see you again in just a few weeks!

    And congratulations on your book. I’m going to be affirming it and you all over the place…hehehe… ๐Ÿ™‚

    • May 2, 2012, 8:03 am   /  Reply

      Melissa, I checked out Beth’s book on my Kindle last night and the first rave review I saw was written by M. Tagg (Des Moines, Iowa). ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Beth Vogt
        May 2, 2012, 4:23 pm   /  Reply

        ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:20 pm   /  Reply

      Yes, the team is like another family — an amazing gift from God!
      Thanks for celebrating with me, Melissa!

  8. May 2, 2012, 7:19 am   /  Reply

    Love this, Beth. And I love you. Who in my life took the time to help me see my value? You have been awesome to be one of those who have spoken encouragement into my life. I am rich with encouragers, and I hope to be the person who takes the time to do the same for others.

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:21 pm   /  Reply

      You are an encourager, Patricia. And your photographs speak life into me.
      Can’t wait to see you (and Robbi) at BRMCWC!

  9. May 2, 2012, 7:26 am   /  Reply

    Very nice–perhaps the finest quote I’ve ever heard from that accomplished man.

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:21 pm   /  Reply

      ๐Ÿ™‚
      Yes, he’s a repeater on my blog!

  10. May 2, 2012, 7:28 am   /  Reply

    I’m not a naturally self-confident person (I question nearly everything I do!) but I have been blessed with many encouragers throughout my life–inside and outside the family. What a wonderful blessing!

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:22 pm   /  Reply

      I think it’s so important to recognize those people who have come alongside us and made such a difference, don’t you?

  11. Jeanne T
    May 2, 2012, 7:29 am   /  Reply

    Beautiful thoughts, here, Beth. So funny how we’re wired to need encouragement. Part of me feels like I shouldn’t need it, that I should be strong enough to work and function without it. But, I can’t.

    My husband is far and away my biggest cheerleader, especially when it comes to writing. I have some friends who been hugely encouraging as well, understanding when I choose writing over activities with them sometimes. God has made us interdependent. I need to remember and embrace that truth. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:23 pm   /  Reply

      Interdependent — a one word summation of the quote.
      Brava, Jeanne.

  12. May 2, 2012, 8:05 am   /  Reply

    My parents were my first encouragers. I am blessed with 17 biological aunts and uncles and many in-lawed aunties and uncles, over 50 cousins and a great community in which I live and they’ve all encouraged me on my journey – I think some of them believe in me more than I believe in myself. My husband and children are my biggest cheerleaders right now – especially my hubby.

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:23 pm   /  Reply

      Wow — a-ma-zing community, Gabrielle!

  13. May 2, 2012, 4:02 pm   /  Reply

    When I first started writing, I knew it was what I wanted, but I didn’t know it would be so hard. I have a circle of readers. I call them my cheerleaders. They wouldn’t let me stop. There was always a verse in my inbox, always a word of encouragement in person, always a question about how things were going. I really think I would have guit if not for them. The best part is, now that I have that contract, not a single one has said, “I told you so.” True friends!!

    • Beth Vogt
      May 2, 2012, 4:25 pm   /  Reply

      What a blessing, Sharon!
      ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. May 3, 2012, 12:49 am   /  Reply

    One of my pastors took the time to help me see my value. He recognized I was a writer long before I even thought in that direction. And he kept encouraging and giving me opportunities use the tools God has given me. I’m so very thankful to him – and tell him so often. ๐Ÿ™‚

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