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In Others’ Words: The Everything of Family

In Others’ Words: The Everything of Family

There’s nothing quite like family rallying together in a crisis. Yesterday, my family rallied round my almost 99-year-old mother-in-law after she fell in her bathroom and ended up being taken to the emergency room via ambulance — she said the trip wasn’t bad — and then spent the day getting x-rayed and scanned. But they also rallied around one another in a time of concern &... Read More »

In Others’ Words: The Essence of Love

In Others’ Words: The Essence of Love

Kindness is such a beautiful expression of love. A kind word. A kind action. Kindness negates self-centeredness because we’re considering someone else’s needs before our own.  Sometimes it’s easier to be kind to a stranger than it is to be kind to a family member or friend. We let someone go ahead of us in the grocery line. Or we buy coffee for the driver behind us in the Starbuc... Read More »

In Others’ Words: The Anger Remedy

In Others’ Words: The Anger Remedy

  The other night I decided to enter into a controversial debate . . . a conversation on Facebook, something I just don’t do. I wrote out my comment, editing it here and there, and then read it out loud to my husband Rob and my sixteen-year-old daughter, CJ. Here’s how the conversation went afterward: CJ: Can I say something? Me: Sure. CJ: You’ve told us if we’re angry... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Surrounded by Story

In Others’ Words: Surrounded by Story

More and more, I have come to love story.  My life story — and other people’s life stories, too. To be honest, there are times I see someone and, at first, I’m closed to their story. Maybe they seem a little too different from me … and I’m put off. But I’ve learned to say to myself, “This person is made in the image of God,” and doing so opens me to ... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Who are You?

In Others’ Words: Who are You?

Honest relationships are the best … and honest relationships are hard to come by.  I have to choose to completely trust someone before I open up to them and show them who I am — the good, bad, and the broken. And when I do that, I hope the other person respects what I’ve shared by believing me. I don’t want to have to prove anything. Or repeat myself,  reminding them of wha... Read More »

In Others’ Words: The Beauty of a Broken Heart

In Others’ Words: The Beauty of a Broken Heart

When I was younger, I thought there was only one way my heart could be broken. I blame my limited thinking on all the Harlequin romances I read as a teenager — and back then, Harlequins were quite innocent. Years later, I know a person’s heart can be broken for many different reasons: the end of a relationship — think of a romance or a treasured friendship or a family relationshi... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Heart Sutures

In Others’ Words: Heart Sutures

Andrew Budek-Schmeisser is anything but a stranger to this blog. He’s often the one to get the conversation going in the comments. I count him a treasured friend — this, despite the fact that we’ve yet to meet face to face. That’s the wonderful thing about friendships: they are not limited by geographical boundaries. His poetic and profound words “Life tears our heart... Read More »

In Others’ Words: Hearing the Silence

In Others’ Words: Hearing the Silence

Sometimes it isn’t so much what we say as it is what we don’t say. I used to to think the more I said, the better chance I had of winning an argument … of influencing people and making friends … and yes, well, making my point. Talk, talk, talk meant effect, effect, effect, right?  Wrong. The power of persuasion doesn’t always lie in our words. No. Sometimes our most p... Read More »

In Others’ Words: No guarantees

In Others’ Words: No guarantees

Sometimes in life, we want guarantees. If we invest in a friendship, we hope that friendship lasts. If we say to someone else, “Yes, I believe in you,” then we hope the other person will have our back, too — and stand by us, through thick and through thin. If we trust someone — with our hearts, with our dreams, with parts of our lives that others don’t see — tha... Read More »

In Others’ Words: The Reward of Listening

In Others’ Words: The Reward of Listening

I enjoy a good conversation, don’t you? The give and take. The exchange of ideas. The back and forth of opinions. I don’t even mind if things get a bit heated, so long as people are respectful of one another. I especially enjoy talking and laughing with people. That is the best of times. But sometimes when I’m with a group of friends or even if I’m in a large group of peopl... Read More »

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